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The Six Phases of a Man’s Life

God’s awesome plan for guys, from boyhood to the senior years.

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God’s awesome plan for guys, from boyhood to the senior years.

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These final words of a king to his crown prince help us see that all guys are in the same boat even when the details of our lives look so different.

When the time drew near for [King] David to die, he gave a charge to Solomon his son. “I am about to go the way of all the earth,” he said.  “So be strong, show yourself a man, and observe what the Lord your God requires:  Walk in his ways, and keep his decrees and commands, his laws and requirements, as written in the Law of Moses, so that you may prosper in all you do and wherever you go, and that the Lord may keep his promise to me: ‘If your descendants watch how they live, and if they walk faithfully before me with all their heart and soul, you will never fail to have a man on the throne of Israel’” (1 Kings 2:2-4).

The Bible records the life of David from the time he was a boy, then a soldier, a king and finally an old man.  David’s entire life shows the voyage that every male has to navigate in life.  David knew this, and he oriented his son for the path that lay before him—the dangers and the opportunities—because he’s already been down the same path.  In God’s design, our masculine lives pass through six phases, each one with its own set of dangers and opportunities.

God wants to orient you as a good Father orients his son to succeed in life.  God made boys the way we are because men have a specific role to play in His world.  During creation, God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule…So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” (Genesis 1:26-27).  Both males and females are made in God’s image, but guys are not girls and girls are not guys.  In God’s wisdom, males and females have equal value, but different purposes in God’s world and a different path of maturity.  The passage of a boy’s life, from birth to death, passes through six phases, one after the other. The purpose of this booklet is to help orient you, the same way David did to Solomon, so you can fulfil God’s good purposes for your life step by step along the way.

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Phase 1:  Beloved Son (0 – 12 years)

This is your formative phase.  In your early years you learn who you can trust, and your family gives you an identity.  Your role during these years is primarily to obey the authority figures in your life—in your family, your school and your community.  It is God’s design for boys to have a father who will accept them, love them and teach them what is right and wrong.  The Apostle Paul explains what a father is supposed to do for his children: “For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory” (1 Thessalonians 2:11-12).

But God’s good design often doesn’t happen in this fallen world.  You may or may not have a father like the one described above, or maybe you’ve never even met your father.  The good news is that God is your Father and he wants you to know him.  Paul writes, “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8).  The Bible tells us that our disobedience to God makes us a slave to sin and puts us under the devil’s power (2 Peter 2:19; 1 John 5:19).  But His Son, Jesus Christ, came to earth, born as a baby boy.  And when he was a man he willingly died on a cross to buy us back from our slavery and to pay our debt of sin.  Then God raised Jesus from the dead, defeating Satan, sin and death forever.  When you trust Jesus to save your soul, God forgives you; He cleans your heart and He adopts you as his own beloved son!  God glorified Jesus in heaven forever and God promises that those who follow Jesus will share in the same glory forever!  Until then, God made sure to give you fatherly advice written down in the Bible, in Proverbs chapters 1-9, where Solomon shares with his sons what his father David taught him as a boy.

boy-diving-reducedPhase 2: Explorer (13 – 20 years)

These are the transitioning years from boyhood to manhood.  You gain more and more independence as your mind and body develop and as you show maturity and faithfulness in the responsibilities that others give you.  It is a time of great discovery, as you explore your expanding world and understand how things work and how relationships work.  You test your strength and discover the talents which God has placed within you.  Take to heart Solomon’s instruction to teen boys: “Be happy, young man, while you are young, and let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth.  Follow the ways of your heart and whatever your eyes see but know that for all these things God will bring you to judgment” (Ecclesiastes 11:9).  Enjoy your freedom. Explore and experiment but respect the limits God has set for you.  Those limits are there because He loves you and knows that outside of those limits you will harm others and be harmed yourself.  Don’t be foolish.  Every temptation is a false promise.

When you’re exploring and experimenting, you will fail at times.  Take each failure and each success as a learning opportunity.  God is guiding you through good and difficult experiences in order to form your faith and your character.  The character you form during these years will affect the rest of your life, either for good or for bad.  Real strength is strength of character.  King Solomon wrote: “Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control” (Proverbs 25:28). And again: “Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city” (Proverbs 16:32). You can own stuff and have a developed body that the world applauds, but if you don’t have strength of character, all the rest is worthless.

Finally, adolescent boys tend to identify more with their friends, so choose your friends wisely.  Paul wrote to his young friend Timothy, “Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart” (2Timothy 2:22).  You need others to help you walk with God.

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Phase 3: Tender Warrior (21 – about 35 years)

A good soldier (or a fireman, or police officer) doesn’t live to please himself.  He has a code of honour and an outward focus that guides his ambition and courage.  At this phase, a young man is ready to commit himself (his time, abilities, and money) to serve other people and to contribute to a cause greater than himself.  This is the key indicator that a boy has truly become a man—when he willingly puts other people’s needs ahead of his own.  The education and training you pursue after secondary school enable you to support yourself as well as to make a greater contribution to your family, your church and your community.  Reflect on this expression: A boy takes; a man gives.  Your strength and talents are God’s gifts to you, so that you can provide for those in need and protect the vulnerable.  This is the honourable charge that God confides in men.  When you follow Jesus, you walk in the path of serving others.

Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.  For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it.  What good will it be for a man if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul?  Or what can a man give in exchange for his soul? For the Son of Man is going to come in his Father’s glory with his angels, and then he will reward each person according to what he has done” (Matthew 16:24-27).

During this phase of young manhood, you should seek out mentors, who are older, experienced and respectable men, who can help you to further develop your talents, to grow in your leadership skills and to learn how to combine courage and gentleness, ambition and servanthood, conviction and humility. Jesus Christ is the perfect combination of all those virtues!  Jesus said, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me” (Matthew 11:29).

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Special Phase:  Lover

While a warrior courageously protects his loved ones and those in need, and he takes initiative to fulfil God’s purposes in his life, a tender warrior also comforts, cherishes and encourages.  King David was a valiant solider in Israel, but he also wrote poetry, composed songs, and played a harp.  In the Psalms, he expressed his prayers and praises to God who created all things beautiful.  A man who lacks these “softer” qualities is a disaster.  God gave men strength to build up, not to destroy.  A tender warrior is a complete man, who loves gently and courageously.

In God’s plan, He made women in His image, in part to display His beauty.   An honourable man recognizes God’s image in women and shows them value and respect, just like Jesus did.  The Apostle Peter wrote, “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7).

Also, in God’s plan, we see that God created Eve to be Adam’s partner.  Adam needed a partner with all the virtues that God placed within Eve.  A confident man is not afraid of his wife’s strengths.  Instead, he is grateful to God for giving him such an excellent wife!  We see in God’s creative design that marriage is between one man and one woman.  Children are the product of the couple’s love for one another, expressed in their sexual union.  Sex was God’s design as a special gift to be enjoyed between a husband and wife.  Any other sexual relationship is the devil’s way to pervert God’s plan and to harm the people God loves.

What counsel does God’s Word offer to young men who want to honour God in their relationships with females?  Paul wrote to the young man Timothy: “Do not rebuke an older man harshly but exhort him as if he were your father.  Treat young men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity” (1 Timothy 5:1-2).  This is God’s good plan, for you to act respectfully to everyone and to have girls simply as friends.  As a trusting friendship grows, you can decide together to make your relationship more serious but be sure to include parents or other trusted adults in your decision, so they can help you both to avoid temptation.  In this way, you will lay a strong foundation for your marriage and family, that is built on mutual trust, love and respect.  God wants that for you.  Don’t you?

visionary-leaderPhase 5:  King (around 35 – 70 years)

Work and Leadership lie in the heart of men.  Before sin entered the human race, we see that God gave Adam work to accomplish and a leadership role to play in the family and over all creation.  God has placed within the heart of men the ambition to make a difference in the world.  Power is given by God, but it can be so easily misused.  Satan’s model of leadership is to grab for power, use it for your own selfish ambitions and never let go.  God’s model, the one who is King of Kings, is to use the power and influence He gives you to advance the Gospel and to serve the needs of the people you are leading.  God expressed his plan for human leaders in Isaiah 32: “See, a king will reign in righteousness and rulers will rule with justice.  Each man will be like a shelter from the wind and a refuge from the storm, like streams of water in the desert and the shadow of a great rock in a thirsty land…No longer will the fool be called noble nor the scoundrel be highly respected…But the noble man makes noble plans, and by noble deeds he stands” (vv. 1,2,5,8).

What noble plans has God placed in your heart?  All of your experiences in the earlier phases of your life have led up to this period where you can lead—in your home, in your church, in your neighbourhood, in business, in government, in education, in missions, in social action; wherever God has given you a passion and interest, serve God’s purposes there.  Our world desperately needs Christ-like leaders!

Older manPhase 6: Sage (65+ years)

There comes a time in every man’s life, if he lives long enough, where his physical strength weakens, and he can no longer do all that he did during his years of active work.  However, since true strength is strength of character, that doesn’t mean his usefulness is over—far from it!  If he has earned the respect of others, his ability to influence others will never be greater.  Hopefully he trained and invested in younger leaders during his own leadership phase and now he releases the position of authority to younger, capable leaders and he becomes their wise advisor.  In Paul’s final years he instructed Timothy, “You then, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.  And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable men who will also be qualified to teach others” (2 Timothy 2:1-2). We saw how King David advised King Solomon on how to be a great king who serves God’s purposes.  When Solomon was crowned king while King David was still alive, David worshiped God.  He wasn’t jealous.  He took satisfaction that he had led well and had served God’s purposes in his generation.  His role became one of counsellor, confidant and encourager.  Every leader needs a man like that and such a respected sage is larger than life!

How can men encourage one another in life’s journey?

The Bible is full of good examples to guide us.  Consider three men whose lives are recorded in the New Testament: Paul, Barnabas and Timothy.  They worked together for the Gospel.  Paul was like a father to Timothy, while Paul and Barnabas were like brothers.  They were stronger together than apart.  You also need older men to guide you, friends to accompany you and younger men in whom you can invest yourself.  Every Timothy needs a Paul; every Paul needs a Timothy and every Paul needs a Barnabas.  God created us to need others while we look to Him for the strength and wisdom we need.

Reflections:

  • What phase are you in right now?  What did you learn about this phase that helps you to know what you should be doing during this stage in your life?  Who can help you to further develop during this phase?

 

  • Genesis 5:1,3 states, “When God created man, he made him in the likeness of God…Adam had a son in his own likeness, in his own image.”  Since our fathers possess God’s image, there are parts of their example we must embrace, but since sin has corrupted every human, there are parts of their example we must erase in our own lives.  Only when we look at the perfect life of Jesus can we discern what to embrace and what to erase.  In your family heritage, what do you need to embrace and what do you need to erase to create a more Christ-like legacy?

 

  • Get into the Bible!  Read about the lives of the men in the Bible and how they acted during the different phases of their lives.  What did they do well?  What did they do wrong?  What lessons can you learn from their successes and failures?

Consider: Jacob, Joseph, Moses, David, Solomon, Jesus, Peter, Paul.

  • Who can be a Paul for you?  A Timothy?  A Barnabas? Pray for God to fill your life with these kinds of guys.  Ask potential mentors for some of their time.

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Pastor Sean Christensen, M.Div., is a Bible professor and mentor to young leaders in Haiti.  He originally wrote this booklet in Haitian Creole (2018).  This version has been adapted specifically for boys and men living in the English-speaking Caribbean.  Pastor Sean is an American missionary serving with World Team.  He supervises missionaries in Trinidad and Suriname and has fellowship with church leaders in Guadeloupe and French Guiana and with the Evangelical Church of the West Indies (ECWI) in the Southeast Caribbean.  Sean and his wife, Heather, have three sons and one daughter.

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All rights reserved. Published: February 2019, Cité Lumière, Cayes, Haïti.

Acknowledgements: The six-phase division comes from the book “The Way of the Wild Heart” by John Eldredge (Thomas Nelson, 2006).

You can make copies of this booklet provided that you do not make any changes and that you do not make any financial profit from it.

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Sis faz nan lavi gason an

Yon oryantasyon pou tout gason nan vwayaj lavi a.

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Ou nan menm panye ak lòt gason yo

Bib la rakonte yon istwa sou de wa: « Lè David santi li pral mouri, li rele Salomon pitit gason l lan, li ba li dènye volonte l. Li di l konsa : –Talè konsa mwen pral fè dènye gwo vwayaj la tankou tout moun sou latè. Pran kouray, pitit mwen! Mete gason sou ou! Se pou ou fè tout sa Senyè a, Bondye ou la, va ba ou lòd fè. W’a fè volonte Bondye, w’a mache dapre lòd, kòmandman, regleman ak prensip li bay yo jan sa ekri nan liv Lalwa Moyiz la, pou tout zafè ou mache byen kote ou pase, nan tou sa w’ap fè. Si ou fè sa, Senyè a va kenbe pwomès li te fè a lè l te di m si pitit mwen yo mennen bak yo byen, si yo mache dwat devan li ak tout kè yo, ak tout nanm yo, ap toujou gen yonn nan yo pou gouvènen pèp Izrayèl la apre mwen. » (1 Wa 2.1-4).

Nan Bib la nou wè lavi Wa David depi li te yon ti gason jiskaske li mouri. Nou wè jan David te oryante pitit gason li, kòm yon kapitenn bato navige bato a nan lamè : li konnen wout la byen, li konnen tout danje ak tout opòtinite epi li ede nouvo wa konnen sa li dwe fè a deske li gentan pase sou menm chemen an. Tout gason Bondye kreye dwe pase nan menm vwayaj lavi a. Sa komanse depi lè nou te nan vant manman nou epi li va tèmine lè nou mouri. Ant de evenman sa yo, genyen yon pasaj pou gason yo ki divize nan sis faz. Nou dwe pase ladan yo youn aprè lòt.

Donk Bondye vle oryante nou menm jan, kòm yon bon Papa ki vle nou reyisi nan kous nou tout dwe fè a. Bondye fè gason jan nou ye a deske gason yo gen yon wòl patikilye nan sosyete a. Bib la di lè Bondye te kreye moun, li te kreye moun nan imaj li epi li te kreye moun gason ak fi. Tou de fèt menm pòtre ak Bondye, men yo pa menm. Gason pa fi epi fi pa gason. Donk, nan plan Bondye, li mete tout gason nan yon pasaj matirite. Pasaj la gen sis faz epi chak faz pòte opòtinite ak defi pal. Se sa ki fè nou menm, gason yo, nou antre nan yon fratènite, sa vle di, nan yon ekip gason kote youn kore lòt pandan nou avanse nan vwayaj ansanm. Dokiman sa a sèvi pou oryante ou menm jan David te oryante Salomon pou li te ka reyisi nan pwochenn faz li te dwe fè a. Ki faz sa yo ye?

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Faz 1:  Pitit gason byen eme (0 – 12 an)

Se fondasyon lavi nou an. Se yon faz fòmasyonèl. Nou aprann nan kiyès nou ka mete konfyans nou. Nou aprann idantite nou. Nan premye faz la, devwa petit gason an se pou obeyi otorite ki sou li yo, nan fanmi li, kòminote li ak lekòl li.  Nan faz sa, nou sipoze gen yon manman pou pran swen nou ak yon papa ki aksepte nou, ki renmen nou epi ki aprann nou sa nou dwe fè ak sa nou pa dwe fè. Anplis, Apòt Pòl eksplike sa yon papa sipoze fè pou pitit li : « Nou konnen ki jan mwen te aji ak nou chak, tankou yon papa ak pitit li yo. Mwen te ankouraje nou, mwen te konsole nou, mwen pat janm sispann fè nou konprann byen ki jan pou nou mennen tèt nou pou nou ka fè Bondye plezi, paske Bondye rele nou pou nou resevwa pa nou nan gouvènman l ak nan bèl pouvwa li. » (1Tesalonisyen 2.11-12).

Pètèt ou te gen yon papa ki te ankadre w ak dousè ak sajès.  Pètèt ou pa konnen papa ou ditou.  Bondye kapab jwe wòl Papa w nan lavi w.  Lè w mete konfyans ou nan li, li bay ou yon idantite kòm pitit gason li renmen anpil! Li adopte w nan fanmi li epi li bay ou yon eritaj ak vrè Pitit li, Jezi Kri. Syèl la ka vini vrè fwaye ou deske Jezi Kri te achte padon peche w yo lè li te mouri sou lakwa. Lè Papa Bondye te resisite Jezi epi li te glorifye Jezi nan syèl la, li te bay yon pwomes ke tout moun ki kwè nan Jezi Kri pral jwenn menm eritaj ak Jezi!

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Faz 2: Jenn gason eksplòratè (13 – 20 an)

Nan faz sa, yon gason gen plis endepandans epi li konn eksperimante anpil pou li ka aprann anpil. Jenn gason an vin pi fò nan kò li. Li renmen teste fòs li genyen epi dekouvri talan Bondye mete nan li. Bondye vle travay nan kè jenn gason an pou fòme nan li yon pèsonalite ki make pa lafwa, respè, obeyisans ak kouraj. Vrè fòs se fòs nan pèsonalite a. Gade sa Wa Salomon te ekri sou vrè fòs la : « Si ou pa kapab kontwole kòlè ou, ou tankou yon lavil san ranpa. Y’ap anvayi l fasil. Y’ap mete men sou ou fasil. » (Pwovèb 25.28). Epi li di ankò : « Pito ou aji ak pasyans pase pou ou fè fòs sou moun. Pito ou konn kontwole tèt ou pase pou ou gwo chèf lame k’ap mache pran lavil. » (Pwovèb 16.32). Ou ka gen nan kò w tou sa lèmonn valorize, men si w pa gen fòs nan pèsonalite w, tou sa pa vo anyen.

Gen paket leson yon eksplòratè ka aprann chak fwa li reyisi nan yon pwojè epi chak fwa li fayi tou! Pandan faz sa, fason w reponn fas a bon ak move sikonstans yo va detèmine kalite sitwayen ou va ye pita! Chwazi byen frè mwen!  Wa Salomon bay yon konsey enpòtan pou yon eksplòratè: « Nou menm, jenn gason, pwofite jennès nou. Fè kè nou kontan pandan tout tan nou jenn gason toujou. Fè tou sa nou ta vle fè, tou sa nou anvi fè. Men pa bliye Bondye gen pou mande nou kont pou tou sa nou fè. »  (Eklezyas 11.9).

Ou gen libète men tout libète gen limit tou.  Ou bezwen zanmi, lòt jenn eksplòratè, ki ka ede w respekte limit Bondye te fikse pou ou.  Kòm Apòt Pòl te ekri Timote : « Pa kite lanvi ki nan kè jenn moun yo pran pye sou ou. Rete lwen yo. Men, mete tèt ou ansanm ak moun ki gen kè yo nan kondisyon pou sèvi Bondye, moun k’ap rele Bondye, kap chache fè sa ki dwat devan l epi k’ap chache gen konfyans, renmen ak kè poze.” (2 Timote 2.22)

phase3Faz 3: Jennonm solda kòm sèvitè (21 – anviwon 35 an)

Kounyeya, gason an konnen kiyes li ye pi plis. Li pa vle viv pou bay tet li plezi ankò. Li pare pou sèvi lòt moun, pou beni lòt moun ak sa li ka fè, ak don, talan ak konesans li genyen, e menm avèk lajan pa l. Li gen yon vizyon sou kijan li ka kontribiye pou sèvi fanmi li, legliz li, kominote li ak peyi li. Yon solda gen kouray epi li pa mete pwop tet pal devan. Sa montre matirite li genyen. Malgre sa, li toujou gen anpil bagay pou l aprann, alò se pou li chache fason pou l ka aprann plis toujou. Yon jennonm gen fòs. Li ka sèvi ak fòs li pou bati oubyen pou detwi, pou sèvi pwop tèt li oubyen pou sèvi vwazen li. Gen yon ekspresyon :

Yon jenn gason plis anvi pran; yon jennonm plis anvi bay.

Poutet sa, yon jennonm ki egois vrèman rete yon timoun nan lespri li. Jennonm, tande sa byen, legliz ou ak peyi w bezwen ou vin jwenn Bondye tout bon vre !  Senyè Jezi pale sou sa :

« Apre sa, Jezi di disip li yo : –Si yon moun vle mache dèyè m, se pou li bliye tèt li. Se pou l chaje kwa l sou zepòl li, epi swiv mwen. Paske, moun ki ta vle sove lavi l va pèdi li. Men, moun ki va pèdi lavi l poutèt mwen, li va jwenn li ankò. Kisa sa ta sèvi yon moun pou l ta genyen lemonn antye si l pèdi lavi li? Kisa yon moun kapab bay pou l gen lavi? Konprann sa byen, Moun Bondye voye nan lachè a gen pou l tounen ak zanj li yo, nan tout bèl pouvwa Papa l la. Lè sa a, li va bay chak moun sa yo merite dapre sa yo fè. » (Matye 16.24-27).

phaseloverFaz Espesyal :  Menaj oubyen Mari, yon solda janti

Gason konn fò men li gen tandrès tou. Wa David se yon egzanp pou nou ankò.  David te yon solda vayan, anmenmtan li te ekri chan yo, li te jwe mizik, li te chante lwanj Bondye epi li ekri nan liv Sòm yo jan Bondye kreye tout bagay tèlman bel.  Yon solda pou Bondye pa renmen detwi, li renmen sèvi ak fòs li epi ak sajès li pou pwoteje tout bel bagay Bondye kreye.  Nou rele gason sa yon solda janti.

Nan plan li, Bondye te kreye fi nan imaj li pou montre bote li.  Yon gason onorab rekonèt imaj Bondye nan tout fi.  Lap bay fi yo respè yo merite a deske li gen respè pou Bondye.  Yon solda janti pap janm vyole yon fi. Lap toujou sèvi ak fòs li pou pwoteje fi yo, menm pou ede yo epi pou fè pwovizyon pou yo. Apòt Pye di nou konsa, « Menm jan an tou, nou menm mari, nan tout bagay se pou nou viv byen ak madanm nou paske yo pi fèb pase nou. Ba yo tout respè yo merite, paske yo menm tou y’a resevwa menm lavi avèk nou tankou yon favè nan men Bondye. Konsa, anyen p’ap antrave lapriyè nou » (1 Pye 3.7).

Deske Bondye te kreye Ev pou akonpanye Adan, Bondye fè li klè ke fanmi an dwe genyen yon sèl mari ak yon sèl madanm ak pitit ke Bondye bay yo. Wa Salomon di : « Lè yon nonm jwenn yon bon madanm, se yon bon bagay. Se yon gwo favè Senyè a fè l. » (Pwovèb 18.22).Se Bondye menm ki te kreye lamou ant gason ak fi, se li ki te kreye gason ak fi pou fè yon sèl kò, fas a fas, nan yon relasyon entim yo rele seks. Poutet sa, se pou gason an ak fi a respekte lòd Bondye fikse nan seksyalite a. Bib la fè li klè ke Bondye bay seks kòm kado selman anndan maryaj la. Kijan yon gason ka kontwole dife sekyèl ki nan li? Apòt Pòl konseye jennjan Timote konsa : « Pa fè granmoun gason yo repwòch twò di. Pale ak yo tankou ou ta pale ak papa ou. Aji ak jennjan yo tankou si yo te frè ou. ak granmoun fanm yo, tankou si yo te manman ou. Ak jenn fi yo, tankou si yo te sè ou, san okenn move lide. » (1 Timote 5.1-2).  Lè w aji ak respè konsa, wap gen zanmi fi kap respekte w deske ou respekte yo epi Bondye va bay ou youn ladan pou madanm ou ki gentan zanmi w. Konsa ou ka bati yon fwaye kretyen sou yon fondasyon fò, ki fet ak lafwa ak obeyisans pou Bondye. Fwaye sa gen lamou mityèl ak respè mityèl. Se sa Bondye vle pou ou.

phase5Faz 5: Wa, yon lidè (ant 35 – 70 an konsa)

Se natirèl pou yon gason vin yon lidè. Bondye kreye nou, gason yo, ak yon chalè pou dirije nan yon domenn nan youn degre ou yon lòt (gade Jenèz 1.26). Sa pa vle di tout gason dwe vin yon gwo chef. Sa vle di Bondye mete anndan nou pou nou pran inisyatif ak kouray nan yon pwojè. Lè yon gason marye, li vinn yon lidè. Lè li vinn yon papa, li vinn yon pi gran lidè. Lè yon gason antre nan yon wòl ou pozisyon kòm lidè, fò li dirije tankou Jezi te dirije. Jezi se wa tout wa epi li egzije lòt wa dirije menm jan li dirije a, ak jistis, ak mizèrikòd, ak sajès ak lanmou. Men vizyon Bondye bay pou tout lidè yo : « Yon jou, va gen yon wa k’ap gouvènen peyi a san patipri. Chèf yo va dirije peyi a jan sa dwe fèt. Yo chak pral tankou kote moun al kache pou move van, tankou kote moun al kache pou van tanpèt. Y’ap tankou yon sous dlo k’ap koule nan dezè, tankou yon kokenn wòch k’ap bay lonbray kote ki pa gen dlo » (Ezayi 32.1-2). Eske wap dirije nan domenn paw pou lòt moun ka fè w konfyans konsa?

Apòt Pyè ekri lidè nan legliz yo : « Mwen menm ki yon chèf reskonsab, m’ap pale kounyeya ak chèf reskonsab ki nan mitan nou yo. Mwen menm ki te wè jan Kris la te soufri a, mwen pral patisipe tou nan bèl pouvwa Bondye ki gen pou parèt la. Men sa m’ap di nou : tankou gadò, se pou nou swen bann mouton Bondye ki sou kont nou an. Pa fè sa tankou si se fòse y’ap fòse nou. Men, fè l paske nou vle fè sa Bondye vle. Pa fè travay la tankou si se dèyè lajan nou ye. Men, fè l ak tout kè nou. Pa fè menm jan ak chèf k’ap maltrete moun ki sou kont yo. Okontrè, se pou nou tounen yon egzanp pou mouton yo. Konsa, lè gran gadò a va parèt, n’a resevwa yon kouwòn ki p’ap janm fennen : n’a resevwa lwanj Bondye. Menm jan an tou, nou menm jennjan yo, se pou nou soumèt devan chèf reskonsab yo. Nan tout rapò nou yonn ak lòt, se pou nou soumèt devan Bondye. Paske : Bondye pran pozisyon kont moun ki gen lògèy. Men, moun ki soumèt devan l, li ba yo favè li. » (1 Pyè 5.1-5).

Old African black man with characterful faceFaz 6: Granmoun, nonm saj (plis ke 65 an)

Kiyès ki ka pi gran pase yon wa ? Se papa wa a! Yon ansyen ki konseye lidè yo gen yon valè inestimab! Yo ka ede nouvo lidè yo pou wè ak, pou ede yo evite tantasyon ki frape tout gason epi pou ede yo gen plis sajès ak konpasyon. Malgre li pa gen menm pouvwa ankò, li ka gen yon enfliyans trè pwofon nan lavi anpil moun. Se yon onè ke Bondye akòde li.  Wa David te byen fonksyone nan faz sa lè li enstwi Salomon nan 1 Wa 2.1-4. David pat nèglije konseye Salomon, okontrè li te fè bon efò pou pataje sajès ak pèspektif pa li bay nouvo wa a. Epi nan jou Salomon te monte sou pouvwa a David te adore Bondye. Li pat jalou. Li te kontan deske li te wè fidelite Bondye nan eritaj li.

Nou jwenn nan Bib la ke David ak Salomon te kite nou, gason yo, ak yon eritaj rich. De wa sa yo, se zanset Senyè Jezikri yo ye. Yo envesti nan nou sajès Bondye te bay yo pou nou ka vinn zòm onorab pou nou ka bay lòt jenerasyon an menm eritaj la.  Eske wap aksepte defi sa?

 Kijan nou youn ka kore lòt antan ke gason?

Nou wè anpil bon egzanp nan Bib la pou gide nou. Ann konsidere twa gason nan Nouvo Kontra : Pòl, Banabas ak Timote.  Yo te travay ansanm pou levanjil. Pòl ak Timote te kòm papa ak pitit gason li. Pòl ak Banabas te kòm frè. Ou menm, gason, ou bezwen yon gason pi wo pase w pou gide w.  Ou bezwen jwenn yon gason pi piti pou w ka oryante li tou. Epi ou bezwen frè nan menm nivo ave w pou youn ka kore lòt.  Chak Timote bezwen yon Pòl, chak Pòl bezwen yon Timote epi chak Pòl bezwen yon Banabas.  Annou youn kore lòt pandan vwayaj nou sou latè pou nou ka akonpli tou sa Bondye vle fè nan lavi nou!

 Reflechi:

  • Gade kijan gason nan Bib la te aji nan diferan faz yo. Kisa yo te fè ki bon?  Kisa yo te fè ki pat bon?  Kijan ou ka aprann nan men yo?

Konsidere : Jakob, Jozef, Moyiz, David, Salomon, Jezi, Pyè, Pòl

  • Nan chak faz, detèmine kisa yon gason nan faz sa bezwen lòt moun fè li? Kisa yon gason nan faz sa dwe fè?
  • Kiyès ka vin yon Pòl pou ou? yon Timote? yon Banabas?

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Etid sa, se Pastè Christensen Sean “Chonn”, M.Div., ki te prepare l.  Li se yon pwofesè nan Faculté de théologie évangélique lumière (FTEL) de la M.E.B.S.H. Travay te fèt nan kolabòrasyon ak Briques de Foi.